There is hope, there is a solution, there is a way out

Smoking, drinking, snorting, eating, not eating, gambling, shopping, gaming, cleaning, sex, work, physical excercise. etc. These are all forms of human behaviour and though some of these may be questionable or objectionable – they are not necessarily  problematic as long as they cause no harm and suffering to yourself or others. But what if they do? What if the behavior turns into an unhealthy habit, an addiction that causes pain and problems, whether physically socially, psychologically or materially?  What if it startts to affect not just the ‘addict’ but also his family and friends or colleages? And how do you recover and find hapiness and serenity.

This website tries to answer these questions and to offer solutions. Whether you are addicted or whether you are affected by someone else’s unhealthy habits.

So, when you or a friend or a family member are suffering from the consequences of addiction – or unhealthy habits as I prefer to call them – then you’ve come to the right place.

On this website you may find hope, courage and strength, as well as practical tips to make the quality of your life better.

It took me years to get to that point. As part of my own recovery I gratefully and humbly share the experience and knowledge I have had the privilege to accumulate over these years.

Al-anon – a 12-step program – has been a great inspiration and a major factor in my own journey. I refer to it in many of my posts. I highly recommend looking into it.

Please feel free to share your own experiences and comments. They are highly appreciated!

Be well,

Paulus Antonius

 

 

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When you or a friend or a family member are suffering from the consequences of addiction – or unhealthy habits as I prefer to call them – then you’ve come to the right place.

On this website I hope you will find hope, courage and strength, as well as practical tips to make the quality of your life better.

It took me years to get to that point. As part of my own recovery I gratefully and humbly share the experience and knowledge I have had the privilege to accumulate over these years.

Al-anon – a 12-step program – has been a great inspiration and a major factor in my own journey. I refer to it in many of my posts. I highly recommend looking into it.

Please feel free to share your own experiences and comments. They are highly appreciated!

Be well,

Paulus Antonius

 

Articles

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Attitude of Gratitude

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You are not alone

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Healing through believing

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Dealing with feeling

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Selective perception: an obstacle to serenity

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Farewell addiction

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Denial

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The 3 C’s

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Dealing with crises at home

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Low self-esteem: who’s judging who?

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The truth about triggers

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Turning the Holiday Blues around

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About Step One in 12 step programs

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The truth about people pleasing

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Unconditional forgiveness: the key to serenity

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4 words you should stop saying

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The paradox of accepting a Higher Power

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Powerlessness: a first step towards recovery

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Relapse, relapse, relapse… no more

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Unhealthy habits: true self versus self image

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